I was in a restaurant the other night, and I heard two young ladies ranting to each other about how there are no “good men” left, and how they are going to be single forever, blah blah blah…. I took one look at them and I could assess instantly why they both were not finding success in the dating world, so instead of confronting them — I decided to write this blog entry to try and be of help to ladies everywhere. For those of you who float through life hoping that “the one” is just going to walk in without you putting forward any effort, I’m sorry to break it to you that this is not a romantic comedy. You have to view dating as a business, and you are the product. If you want to find the perfect mate, you are going to have to invest the time and effort. This dating advice comes from an attractive “wealthy” (According to Obama) conservative male, who dated for 15 years before finding “the one” and settling down Enjoy —
1). Product Packaging is Everything!
Two-thirds of the U.S. population are now considered overweight, which means that the “datable” population just shrank even more. By doing something as simple as losing weight — You can out-shine 66 percent of the competition, just like that. I’m sorry that your minds have been filled with political correct nonsense from the TV about how someone will love you for who you are, and how it’s what is on the inside that matters. The truth is that no guy is ever going to get to know the inside if he doesn’t like what he sees on the outside first. Think of yourself as a product, and as that product — You’ve got to attract someone to take a bite before they are going to be sold on buying you. These are just some suggestions to begin with: Join a gym to lose that weight, get your hair professionally colored and styled, Treat yourself to routine beauty salon appointments for manis, pedis, etc. Plastic surgery is now affordable and attainable for any budget. You wouldn’t think twice about getting your teeth fixed if you had a gnarly overbite, so why wouldn’t you consider getting a nip tuck elsewhere if needed? Remember, marketing starts with product packaging!
(Many would agree that Kim Kardashian is the master of self marketing)
2). Stop Smoking……..
Think of the pure mathematics of the situation. Not only is smoking a disgusting habit that wreaks havoc on your health and budget — But also, it limits the size of your particular dating pool by about 1/2. I’d venture a guess that at least 50 percent of the guys out there won’t even consider kissing you if your mouth is going to taste like the bottom of an ash tray. If you need help getting off the cigs, try Electronic Cigarettes as a healthier alternative to smoking tobacco, and one that does not ruin your breath or teeth.
(A guest on Letterman tries E-Cigs as an alternative to Tobacco)
3). Be Smarter!……..
Guys are interested in more than ESPN and Beer. Not that those things aren’t important, but we do like to enjoy the occasional conversation about current events, and maybe even history or politics. Nothing turns an educated man off more than hearing from a woman that she doesn’t really watch the News, she can’t converse on History — and that she doesn’t invest for retirement. If a guy thinks that your mental substance consists of what you read in Cosmo magazine, crossed with watching “Extra”– He’s not going to respect you, and he’s not going to stick around very long. If you think that the news equals watching John Stewart on the Daily Show, then you’ve got a rude awakening coming. Foxnews, CNBC, Bloomberg and Fox Business channels ladies — Learn to love them! A college education is also going to help, and I don’t mean a degree in art or dance.
(Many men would agree that Ivanka Trump is the ultimate combination of intelligence and sex appeal)
4). Have A Career……..
We’ve all taken jobs that weren’t very good at times in our lives, but most of us didn’t stay in those jobs for 5, 10, or 15 years. If you are still working at the Movies and you are 29 years old – There is something wrong with you. Do you think women are the only ones who want to marry a Doctor, Lawyer, or Scientist? Men will judge you by what you are doing to support yourself. If you are just barely hanging onto the bottom rung – A guy is going to think that you are husband-shopping for someone to financially rescue you – And that is not a very strong position to be in when the relationship negotiations begin. Don’t have a job, have a career! Job.com – Post your resume FREE! Search 1000′s of Jobs FREE!
5). Project Class, Grace, and Charm at all times…….
In the old days – Some women went to “Charm” or Finishing school. At said schools, they would teach basic etiquette, and how to act like a “lady”. If you ask me – These are skills that have been lost to the ages for most women in the present day. Men are still impressed by a woman’s ability to take command when it comes to manners and etiquette. Generally men are attracted to women who don’t curse, look & smell nice, can converse using proper English grammar, can e-mail without spelling errors, can cook, can dress alluring but not overtly sexy, etc. Remember that regardless of what a man tells you, his subconscious mind is telling him to select a woman that would be a good wife and mother. Modern men want the whole package, a career woman who can take command in the board room — while coming home to be the anchor of the household, then rock your world in the bedroom.
6). Be Confident…..
Confidence is attractive to both men and women, because nothing is worse than a nagging jittery person in your midst. Confidence can be initially beneficial in attracting a Man, but also in keeping one once you’ve got him under your spell. The main complaint men hear after they begin exclusively dating a woman is that they will “cheat” behind the woman’s back. While this may be true in some situations, a lot of Men find 1 woman more than enough work – And won’t break your trust. The ones who will cheat are going to cheat regardless of what you do, and if you take to nagging – Even the ones who are not per-disposed to cheating may consider it, or worse – end the relationship. There is nothing sexier than a strong, confident woman who is comfortable in her own skin.
(Christina Hendricks is a full figured beauty who is very comfortable with her body, and projects a strong confident image!)
7). When Out – Drink, But Do So Appropriately…..
Men want to buy you a drink – It’s a tradition as old as the ages. If you don’t drink, then they are instantly going to label you as a religious fanatic, or recovering alcoholic. Drinking loosens the nerves, and opens up the dating pool to you. Men respect women who drink “Classic” feminine cocktails like Vodka tonics, Martinis (Not the fru fru ones), Gin & Tonics, Screwdrivers, Vodka Cranberries, etc. When guys take you out – They will think it’s embarrassing if you order drinks that are so fru-fru you have to explain to the bartender how to mix it. Try to stick with clear liquor vs. Bourbon, Scotch, or Whiskey, which will generally be labeled as Men’s drinks. For reference, Marilyn Monroe enjoyed champagne cocktails very much. Elizabeth Taylor liked Vodka, on the rocks or with tonic. Audrey Hepburn drank Scotch, but not all women can pull that off!
(Classic Film Goddess Ava Gardner, enjoying a cocktail)
8). Surprise Him, By Offering To Pick Up The Tab….
While most traditional men are going to dutifully pay for dinner, drinks, or movies whenever you go out – Sometimes it’s refreshing for the woman to offer to pay. As a guy, I can say that we won’t always accept your offer – But it’s certainly nice of you to make such a gesture – And that is going to be recorded as points for you. Once in a very long while, it’s perfectly acceptable for the woman to forcibly pick up the check, and refuse to allow the man to even see it. One such event was definitely in the top 5 most arousing moments of my life.
9). Have A Life… Show That You Don’t Need a Man…
While being attentive is important – Men don’t want to feel that they are the center of your world. It can be very attractive for you to be involved in hobbies, sports, or activities outside of dating. The most unattractive thing a woman can portray to a Man is that her whole life is built around dating, bars, and meeting a guy to settle down with. If you have nothing going on in your life besides dating and work, my advice would be for you to take some Golf lessons, or join a woman’s philanthropic social club – Something to give your life more than one dimension.
10). Don’t limit yourself to bars & clubs……
Ask yourself what kind of guy you’d like to meet, and then ask yourself where he might be hanging out. Nine times out of ten, the answer is not going to be at a bar or club. Bars and clubs are a good place to meet guys that are interested in you for one night, and that’s about it. You might get lucky online, but you should also expose yourself to Golf courses, Country Clubs, Charity Events, and School activities — Any place where Mr. Right might be spending his time. Young Professionals clubs or social groups can be fun, as well as exclusive fund raisers where ideal conservative mates might be hanging out to spread some wealth around, and have an excuse to dress up.